136. Why Boundaries Feel Wrong.. Even When You're Doing Them Right

You said no to something this week. And you've been replaying it in your head ever since. Wondering if you were being difficult. Questioning whether you should have just said yes . Feeling guilty for protecting your time/energy. Here's what no one tells you: That discomfort? It doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. In this episode, I'm breaking down why boundaries feel so uncomfortable for high-achieving mothers—and why that discomfort might actually be the sign you're finally choosing yourself. You'll discover: The real difference between selfish and self-led (and why you've been confusing the two) Why the guilt you feel when setting boundaries is proof you still care—not proof you're wrong The one question to ask yourself before setting any boundary (it changes everything) How to sit with the discomfort without letting it control your decisions What I learned when I quit full-time work and felt like I was disappointing people This one's for you if: You avoid setting boundaries because they feel selfish You worry that protecting your capacity makes you difficult or uncommitted You've been trained to say yes your entire life and you're tired of it Fair warning: This episode won't make boundaries easier. But it will make them clearer. And sometimes clarity is all you need to finally choose yourself. Listen now. If you'd prefer, you can read the related blog post here. Send me a text message. Support the show Want more? Check out the Mrs Mummy PhD ® website. Book your free SEED call. Follow me on Instagram , Facebook , Twitter , Threads , Pinterest or TikTok . Join the newsletter family at Scholarly Mamas® - The Letter Check out my Doodle Dozen® children's book series These are our journeys of becoming. Disclaimer: All views are my own. Nothing shared on this podcast should be considered a substitute for medical/clinical advice or mental health support. Please seek assistance from a qualified professional who can help you if you are struggling or in need of advice/intervention.