Get Energy Vs Serve Energy: The Thing People Feel Before You Speak

Send us Fan Mail If you’ve ever felt like you’re taking action but nothing is moving, this might be the missing piece: the energy underneath what you’re doing. We talk about two “rooms” you can walk into at any moment, get energy and serve energy and why the same words, the same strategy, and the same script can land completely differently depending on which one you’re carrying. It’s just the human experience, and people can often feel it before you even speak. We unpack what get energy sounds like in real life: trying to get a client, trying to get your spouse to change, trying to get your kids to listen, trying to get your team to buy in. Even when it comes from a good heart, it can create pressure, resistance, and that “something feels off” vibe that’s hard to explain. Then we show what serve energy looks like: leading with influence instead of control, helping with no strings attached, and letting outcomes be the other person’s choice. Along the way, Marc shares a personal story about years of trying to push Teresa to work out and how one shift in approach changed everything for the long term. We also go deeper on leadership and coaching by separating technical problems from adaptive problems, and why switching tactics can fail or even crush confidence when the real issue is what’s happening under the surface. If you sell, lead, coach, or parent, you’ll walk away with a simple self-check for spotting your intention in the moment and a clean way to make an offer without getting pushy or hiding. If you found this helpful, subscribe, share it with a friend who feels stuck, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway. TAKE YOUR LEADERSHIP TO THE NEXT LEVEL Ready to become a more effective coach or leader? The High Impact Mastery Academy (HIMA) helps coaches and leaders develop the skills, confidence, and mindset to create meaningful change in themselves and others. Whether you're coaching clients or leading a team, HIMA is designed to help you expand your impact. Join the HIMA waitlist: modernleadership.us/certification