Why Am I So Tired? The Hidden Burnout of People-Pleasing with Dr. Lorea Martínez Pérez

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you! You’re getting enough sleep. You’re still showing up for work, your family, and everyone who depends on you. From the outside, you may even look like you have everything together. So why are you so tired? In Part 1 of this powerful conversation, Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, sits down with emotional intelligence expert, author, and educator Dr. Lorea Martínez Pérez to explore the hidden signs of burnout—and why women who are used to pushing through, taking care of others, and ignoring their own emotional needs may not recognize burnout until their bodies and emotions demand their attention. Lorea shares her own deeply personal wake-up call: while taking a simple walk with a colleague, the thought of adding one more thing to her already-full life became so overwhelming that she began crying and couldn’t stop. That moment forced her to ask what was happening underneath the exhaustion. Together, Anita and Lorea explore what burnout can actually look like—including losing joy in things you once loved, waking up exhausted even after sleeping, continuing to perform despite depletion, and giving everyone else compassion while struggling to offer that same kindness to yourself. They also unpack an important question for recovering people-pleasers: What happens when you become so good at noticing everyone else’s emotions that you stop listening to your own? Lorea introduces her research-based HEART in Mind® framework and explains why emotions aren’t problems we need to eliminate—they’re information. For women who have learned to suppress anger, resentment, frustration, or exhaustion to avoid disappointing others, learning to honor those emotions can become an important step toward breaking old patterns. And suppressing those feelings doesn’t necessarily make them disappear. Lorea explains how unprocessed emotions can eventually show up through irritability, snapping, emotional overwhelm, and behaviors that affect both ourselves and the people around us. 💗 In Part 1, you'll hear about: The warning signs of burnout that are easy to dismiss Why you can sleep and still wake up feeling exhausted Why losing your joy can be an early warning sign The difference between self-care and self-compassion Why high-achieving women may recognize burnout in others before themselves How people-pleasing can disconnect you from your emotions What happens when anger, resentment, and exhaustion are continually suppressed How emotions first communicate through the body Lorea's HEART in Mind® framework Why you need to include yourself in your circle of care Practical ways to recognize emotions before they continue increasing in intensity 🎧 About Dr. Lorea Martínez Pérez Dr. Lorea Martínez Pérez is an emotional intelligence expert, educator, and award-winning creator of HEART in Mind® , a research-based approach designed to help people understand their emotions, manage stress, strengthen relationships, and reconnect with purpose. Her new book, Living with the HEART in Mind: A Practical Guide to Healing from Burnout and Cultivating Purpose , combines emotional intelligence, neuroscience, mindfulness, practical tools, and her own experience with burnout to help overwhelmed professionals move beyond survival mode and build healthier, more fulfilling lives. Dr. Martínez has more than two decades of experience in human development and capacity building and has trained adults internationally. 💗 Connect with Dr. Lorea Martínez Pérez 🌐 Visit Dr. Lorea Martínez Pérez's web

Why Am I So Tired? The Hidden Burnout of People-Pleasing with Dr. Lorea Martínez Pérez | Part 1