39. What Is Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) and Can It Spice Up My Marriage? | Interview with Sir Pocketz, relationship and ENM coach

Are you curious about ethical-non monogamy (ENM)? Wondering if it can be a way to spice up your marriage or relationship? Or do you just want to learn what all the rage is about ENM? In this episode, Luciana interviews Sir Pocketz, a somatic and relationship coach specializing in ethical non-monogamy (ENM). The discussion explores the different forms of non-monogamy, including swinging, open relationships, and polyamory, with Sir Pocketz providing detailed explanations of each and sharing personal experiences from his own polyamorous marriage. Key topics included the motivations for exploring non-monogamy, the importance of discernment and clear communication in relationships, and the necessity of building a strong foundation of trust and emotional safety, especially in a mono-normative society. Sir Pocketz emphasizes that non-monogamy is not about filling a void but about expanding authentic connections and community, and he described the logistical and emotional strategies he and his wife use to manage multiple relationships and parenting. He introduces the concept of the "inner triad"—maintaining relationships with one's past, present, and future selves—as foundational to healthy polyamorous relationships. The conversation concludes with practical advice for couples curious about ENM: to educate themselves, understand their motivations, and nurture their relationship with themselves before seeking multiple partnerships. Resources such as books and coaching were recommended, and the importance of having an "anchor reason" for pursuing non-monogamy was highlighted as a key takeaway. Follow Pocketz here: www.darktantratemple.com www.holistickinkcoaching.com @sir.pocketz on instagram Books cited here: The Ethical Slut by Hardie and Easton Poly Secure by Jessica Fern More Than Two by Veaux and Rickert Check out my website at www.intimacyforworkingmoms.com Next steps: Sign up for my weekly newsletter at - bit.ly/intimacyforworkingmomsemail Join my free women-only facebook community at Intimacy for Working Moms Follow me on Instagram -> @IntimacyforWorkingMoms Sign up for your 1:1 Desire Coaching session with me