The 3 Things Every Couple Fights About (And What to Do Instead)

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Our book, Overcoming Infidelity, is OUT NOW: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Overcoming-Infidelity/Carl-Lentz/9781668230497 "We seem to fight all the time. Big things, little things. Are we too far gone?" A listener sent us that question, and if you've ever felt the same way, you're more normal than you think. Healthy couples aren't the ones who never fight. They're the ones who've learned how to fight in a way that brings them closer instead of pushing them apart. We break down why the slammed door is never really about the door, the three things almost every couple fights about, and why most marriage conflict never fully goes away (and why that's actually good news). Then we get practical. You'll get a question to ask your spouse for each of the big three, a simple test to tell whether you're fighting about a preference or a principle, and how to turn a rule into a request. Carl shares the moment Laura answered "what do you put up with that I don't know about?" and how many items it took before he gave up. Stay for "you can win the argument and lose the connection," the funeral test for small fights, "the most sacred story" Carl tells himself before bringing up an issue, and Laura's take on why nagging never works. If your marriage feels more petty than powerful right now, this one is for you. Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/ Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/ See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .